Mind tricks

“I feel as if I were a piece in a game of chess, when my opponent says of it: That piece cannot be moved.”  Soren Kierkegaard   #FollowGreatFootsteps


Not an especially inspiring quote  but it does reflect  my mood and the frustration I am feeling at the moment.

There are plenty of us  living with all sort of illnesses and I just like many of you , try to cope with living with them in the best way I can. These days I have good coping strategies but they don’t seem to be working.

I’m using my new skills and upping my game harder than ever and still I suffer.

No purgatory.

Well, there is an element of being lost and not knowing in what direction I am going in.

My opponent not only mastered this game of chess ,he carved the very pieces of each piece,  made the board and wrote the the rules. To say I’m frustrated and stuck is an understatement.

I’m struggling . That is the truth.

I need to start to think differently. I don’t know where the rule book is. I know all the cheat ways to get to my goal but I want to do it in a courageous and new way.

Our fight is frustrating. We feel at the mercy of our illness but we can stick together and support one another. Just by expressing ourselves in our blogging we are reaching out for support.

I need another way. I’m reaching out today becasue I don’t know who else to turn too

About Daisy Willows

'Words are my everything' - Jon Wayne . A writer of poetry, stories, stage scripts, fiction, border line poetry & freestyle works, Music reviews, Guest Features/interview & shout outs. She is also passionate about raising anti-stigma & awareness for Mental Health. A trained co-facilitator in Wellness Recovery Action plan by Mary Ellen Copeland Natasha goes by many moniker names-Daisy Willows, bahtuhkid, GOAT2Bdazee. She has had a colourful life. Travelled. Natasha co-owns a second-hand clothing & accessories business -La Bella Bijoux Ltd Natasha was born in South Africa & is a French national. She currently resides in the UK Natasha Bodley holds a postgraduate in the Humanities. A BA in Myth in the Greek and Roman worlds & Advanced creative writing. She also holds a Foundation degree in Acting performance. She is currently working on her first novel (semi-autobiographical creative non-fiction). She has published one short story on Amazon called 'Number one' Connect with Natasha Collaborate with Natasha & feel free to Communicate her too. Light, Peace & Love!

Posted on Jun 17, 2022, in WRITE TO RECOVER and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 17 Comments.

  1. Advanced Research Technology

    In mindfulness (at least my unique version of it), the path is also the answer. Life keeps taking us over the same road until we overcome it. This rule seems to hold true in all situations.
    So, we have to look at the path, because it has something to say. How do we get here? Why do we keep coming back? What it is saying is that there is something lodged within our psyche and we have to deal with it. More often than not this “thing” is a lie about ourselves or our reality. We have to dispense with it to go any further. That’s right, just fling it off behind some bush. It won’t be needed anymore.
    How we define ourselves is, in fact, our reality. If we say we are a such and such, we are exactly that kind of so and so. In order to change that, a redefining has to take place. People say I’m a recovering alcoholic. As long as they say that, they are still an alcoholic. They have to redefine in order to get past this stage. I am no longer an alcoholic… and so it is.
    The other thing in moving forward is to let go. There are some things that just pleasurise us in the most delightful ways, but stand in the way of us going any further. There are times when we have to decipher these items and dispense with them as well. Same solution… fling them off behind some bush. You’ll feel a little naked for a while. Oh well!

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  2. I am not sure of a good quote to share at this moment 😮 I hope things get better, whatever type of illnesses we have, it’s just almost always a battle

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  3. Oh Daisy, I wish you were not struggling. I know it is not easy…Hugs to you. xxx


  4. Sending you BIG HUGS, Daisy! ‘Hope springs eternal in the human breast’… Alexander Pope in Essay on Man… Take Care! Hugs! ❤

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  5. You are not alone ,Daisy.I’m here together with other great people who care.Take a deep breath,and change the rules. one by one.Small steps.I have faith in you!

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  6. I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling, Daisy. That’s never a fun mindset to be in. Maybe take some time out first … Clear your head and still the mind. Often when we’re struggling we keep dwelling on the problem and the feeling of drowning makes it harder for us to see a way out. Find something else to occupy your mind, something creative or mental that is fun for you and far removed from the struggles. Then perhaps you could remind yourself of the positive drive and motivation behind the “new plans” you had in place. Sometimes taking ourselves back to the point when things got better can help refocus on sticking to all those positive changes. Most importantly, remind yourself how strong you are and how far you’ve come. Say it over. And say it again. Hugs to you xx

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    • Thanks Kim. I just want to crawl back into bed , my hubby to be says I need to get out . He and you are right. Where is brooding going to get me? I wish the scales didn’t have such an effect on my mood. You have a good heart xx

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      • You’re welcome, Daisy. I know what a battle those wretched scales can be and they are poisonous … A perfectly good day can be ruined in a heartbeat and over what? It’s just a number. Everything else is as wonderful as it was … you have the love of hubby to be, family & friends, you have your good heart & kindness to others. Don’t focus on the negative. And if you can’t help it, distract yourself! Loose yourself in some hobby or chore, go for a walk or a drive. And get to bed early … Tomorrow is a fresh start xxx

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      • Thanks hun… Indeed tomorrow is a new day. One of these days I’m going to throw those damn scales away! xx


  7. Maybe you need to write a new rule book! When my moods or pain get the better of me and seem to be in charge of my life, I look at turning it in my favour by changing some of the rules. If I can’t sleep because of pain, then I get up and do something (that doesn’t bother the pain too much of course) and tire myself out until I can sleep. If I am feeling depressed but don’t feel up to going for a walk I will just go out back in the yard with my pets and my computer and sit in the sunshine (providing there is some and it isn’t raining) to get fresh air and vitamin D. You don’t have to do anything drastic. Just turn the game in your favour.

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