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DBS GIRL  has  found an epic quote for the #FollowGreatFootsteps

Click on her name link in green to check out her chosen quote.

What can I say about this ladies blog. We are kindred spirits. I was first drawn to her blog when two months ago with this POST

She has a wicked sense of humour. She posted a pic of what she looks like and well….. you are just going to have to click on the post link above to find out why I connected with her.

She is also an inspiration to me. A person who has struggled and come through the other side -not pretending all is rosy.

She decided to challenge herself to do something different. Post a quote on #FollowGreatFootsteps –

All changes don’t have to be great big leaps.

I think the point behind the quote is if you don’t try new things you will never know what is waiting for you.

She is a great support to me and a great ally to have in the blogging world. She is a true giver xx

Bask in the sun light

“Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen.Keep in the sunlight”- Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)

Why I have chosen this quote.

A lot can be said for living in the moment. being mindful is something we kept coming back to in the training session yesterday.

It can be applied in so many contexts.

I have to live moment by moment or I will be suffocated by all the  darkness that my future self anticipates. Do not allow the future to take both of its hands and use its hands to grab around your throat, gving it the opportunity to  strangle every last breathe of hope you have in you.

One moment.


One moment.

Lions and Spiders

“When Spiders unite they can tie up a lion”  Ethiopian Proverb

Why have I chosen quote?

Today, I am helping out HEALTHY MINDS with an anti stigma workshop for volunteers at HOMESTART

Home-Start Halifax was set up in October 1999 after the North Halifax area was identified as having high levels of needs due to deprivation. In response to this, Home-Start could help parents improve their parenting skills, confidence and access other services both within the statutory and voluntary sector.

People who are fighting stigma and living with it. Spiders are ugly, creepy and don’t have many enduring qualities- in my head, I think a  lot of people approach people who struggle with mental health issues as they would a huge spider.

The cool thing is  nature dictates that there are  always going to be  more spiders than lions and united we can break the silence around stigmatising mental health.


You are not just an organisation made up of staff and volunteers. Regardless of who gets paid money for their time and who offers their time- ultimately everyone within the organisation whatever  your role is no less or more important than  the other roles.

Your organisation and YOU, the  volunteers who represent your organisation ,come into a family’s home when Mental Health is usually not so stable.

Your organisation can be the first port of call and who can sign post people to different support agencies

. Your role and the decisions that are made within the organisation can be the difference between the Local authorities becoming involved or to let the community and a family work through issues as a community should.

 pop over to SickNotWeak for inspiration if you are struggling today. The online chat forum is open from  8pm- 12 am, Canadian time.

Our SickNotWeakTalk is available from 8 pm to 12 am EST.

Our goal is to have our chat be available to our community 24/7/365.

This is my Monday boost and inspiration – Have a great day.Can’t wait to catch up with you later on.







Secret words

‘I  have given you words of vision and wisdom more secret than hidden mysteries.Ponder them in the silence of your soul and then in freedom do your will’ Bhagavad Gita

Why have I chosen this quote?


My fears were indeed unfounded. I think of my psychiatrist  when  I decided to use this quote. Yesterday,



We are open and honest with one another. The beauty of this kind of relationship  is he leaves the control of how I use the concoction of medication I am on in my control under his guidance of course.

I don’t know many doctors who do this.

Yes, I am on far too many anti anxiety tablets.

Addictive ones. I have been on them for years.

I know there is day that I need to get off them.

There never seems to be a right time. I need to create that time.

Doctor J. put the words out there:

” You are on too many benzos”

(panic starts its drum) .I acknowledge this.

We talk about factors that may explain why I am still not stable (as I have been) with my moods .

  1. not eating correctly

  2. been on the same antidepressants for  over 10 years

  3. the pharmacist’s mistake in the dosage one of my mood stabilisers

  4. Benzo’s make you depressed.

So what is the plan?


The plan:

  • Up the mood stabiliser.

  • Think about reducing one of the Benzos by a half -a tiny little speck of a half

  • . Follow up with my C.P.N. three weeks from now.

  • Gauge if the increase in the mood stabiliser is working.

  • Decide how I want this to play out.

  • do I feel ready to start reducing the benzo’s?

No! (my automatic response)

Okay, chill, Daisy there is no pressure.

GO back to the quote:

The seed has been planted.-  I have received ‘the words and vision more secret than hidden mysteries’

‘Ponder them in the silence of your soul and then in freedom do your will

 It is only my will that can lead me to true freedom.

How many other doctors do you know who are like this with their patients?

He trusts me. I  do honestly try to use the least amount of benzos in a day. If I want to have another child after I am married.

I do!

I will not repeat past mistakes.

My next child may not be so lucky. He or she may go through severe ,life threatening withdrawals.

I was ignorant the first time round. I have learnt the lesson.

My child is a daily reminder of what I wish for her and my future children.


So, for now. I get back to my passions: volunteering and training, get my confidence and focus back- then I  am in a stronger position  to make   a decision that will benefit me in the long run.

I read so many other posts where people with Mental health issues don’t get the kind of support and trust I get.

Yes,I am blessed.

I am also honest( to a fault).

There is some kind of message here: Not speaking up for  Fear and acknowledgement of how we cope, can be a natural reaction to protect our mind.





 the word- petrifies me

 What will I do without xyz.?

Anorexia and many other Mental health illnesses have a strong component of control as a symptom. The way to empower us to to give us some control over how we want to be treated and how we don’t want to be treated.

I put together a WRAP plan last year –  my whole professional support team have signed it.

It includes

  • what makes me happy

  • Triggers

  • coping mechanisms

  • early warning signs that all is not well

  • breaking down signs

  • crisis plan

  • treatment plan

  • post crisis plan.

WRAP TESTIMONIAL CLIP      ( it may just be the best gift you ever give yourself or to someone you love. All it costs is a bit of time and effort, I contributed to this testimonial )

I think more mental health professionals should move towards this approach. When a person with mental health issues is relatively well, that person is the only person who knows what will get them back on track.

 I know I am going on a bit here


if we do a bit of work on ourselves and find out what makes us tick -we stand a better chance over improving our mental health and our quality of life.

Just an opinion from a person who has mental health.

Don’t I mean mental health ‘issues’


Do you have a mind?


Then you have mental health.


Different  life scenarios and experiences  constantly change, so that you are always sliding along a mental health spectrum between good mental health and bad mental health.

 I have bills to pay and grocery shopping to do today, I neeed to get my booty in to action.

So for now, to  a person  reading this, who doesn’t think they are susceptible to poor mental health;

I propose an exercise.


 A challenge, if you will..

Where would you be on the scale of mental health?  ( good feeling 100% well – bad being  0%)  if

  • your cat/dog died

  • you got a job promotion

  • you got divorced

  • you won the lottery

  • you child is bullying at school

  • you find out your loved one is dying from an illness

  • you win tickets to go see your favourite band

  • you fall pregnant

  • you need to move home

  • you are moving to a new country


Just something to think about.


Can’t wait to read what other people are thinking about, what is going on in your lives and everything thing else. Thanks for reading.  Time to hit the real world and get broke!


I am the author of my life


Many of you may of heard of PROJECT SEMI COLON  for those who haven’t, there does not have to be a full stop;

The organization explained the significance of this particular punctuation, writing “[a] semicolon is used when an author could’ve chosen to end their sentence, but chose not to. The author is you and the sentence is your life.” Since its beginning in 2013, Project Semicolon has gained worldwide attention and support, with the semicolon tattoo spreading in solidarity.

Inspiration: Let go of your wildhorses

Emotions can be likened to  wild horses. You may feel unable to control them. You  may think that you have to experience them. Who wants to live governed by your emotions? It is like allowing yourself under the tyranny of the ’emotion king’

Don’t try to run from them or suppress them, acknowledge them for what they are. Don’t feel ashamed or guilty for having emotions, then allow your emotions pass through you like a gentle breeze that moves the trees and leaves.

 REMEMBER: You are the one who gives your emotions the power .And you alone give them the permission to change the way you behave.

Stretch and Yawn

SECRET TO HAPPINESS: Shout out to those mental endorphins friends of yours -tell them there is a VIP party – they are on the guest list and give yourself a head to toe workout.

TRADITION: T’ai Chi  I (not my thing – but an example)

DATE: Everyday

CELEBRATED: Shang-gai China



“AAAAAAARGHGHh ( I have released your inner Godzilla) , why  are you torturing me with this talk of exercise so early in the morning /evening – ever,Daisy?” 

Lose the guilt over those extra cookies, ice cream you ate. There is nothing you can do about it now. You can keep the T.V. on – you might need it- like I do. I am going to ask you to get up…

Here is the patronising part of the post, ready? 

When your body is on ‘do not disturb’ mode, your mind has jumped some poor hotel room cleaner, dressed in her clothes and is heading straight for that room with the ‘Do not disturb sign’.  You all just going to fester away. 

Godzilla VS. The Smog Monster


“AAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH ( Godzilla mode), I have no energy, I’m tired. I’ve travelled to Spain and back , help choose, buy and re decorate a house -in one hour.Okay well, I mentally worked and help that lovely couple on T.V. choose a house. Shouting at a T.V. can be exhausting ,you know?”

One of my biggest coping mechanisms apart from taking my meds. Is exercise . I  don’t feel like doing it everyday. I got myself into a bit of a lull a while back and I was going through the motions but not really OWNING my work out. I’m an old school raver and  I can’t afford to pay for fancy gym memberships. So  most of the furniture is rearranged  in my living room ,so I  can pump it up to club house anthems/tunes. I have a full on rave in my living room everyday. VIP for me and my E’s, baby! Pure Evian water and one ‘sexy’ mama shaking my booty like some 20 year old dang fine thing. Can, you picture it? 

No. I can’t . I struggle with the body rolls. The one move I like  most and looks rather sexy. I roll about as smoothly as a person who has just got punched in the stomach. Not the rhythm and look I am really going for.

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 Thing is I had a bit of a chat with the exercise part of me a few weeks back. I was like,

“Dudette, listen.( I like to think my inner mind harbours green female Ninja turtles)  What is the point of the doing all this dancing if you are not in the moment?. There is no body watching you. Turn down the paranoia volume. Turn the music volume up. You don’t need to look like these girls just shake what your mama gave you and feel the music. 

It worked! It is working. Never doubt the power of a good talk with thy lovely selves. I’ve got that buzz that I lost for a bit. Not everyone wants to do Rave work out D.V.D.s’ and that is cool. 

Over the hills and far away, there is a mile long esplanade that hugs the Huanpu River. There you  can  see the mind and body revitalise in slow- mo matrix mode. 

Everyday as Apollo rides his chariot pulling back the moons blanket  shaking out last nights grit of slumber from the eyes.  There are people.  All sorts of people making their way to the edge of the ocean, in chinos or whatever feels comfortable, they all get together and do a mass mind and body  YAWN repertoire. Easy does it. A few gentle stretches does it.


There is no judgement, no one scoring you out of 10. Some people exert themselves  more and do a ballet style of sword waving . Others just mill about in a state of tranquil activity.If that makes sense?002-China-2002-Shanghai.jpg

MESSAGE : I know not everyone has has the time nor the energy to do a massive gym workout but T’ai chi is a great example of a type of meditative exercise that  isn’t ageist, sexist` or any other -ists- you can think of. It’s subtle. If you are not feeling the T’a chi vibe. Personally  I don’t find it does enough for me.  I used to do it when I was an inpatient  in hospitals for my Eating disorder.It may be the same with you, then look at learning some other martial art or something else. Something that get the blood pumping, the body toning and the result -is an epic High- no drug beats it. Trust me, I have tried a load of drugs in my time.


Poetry jo’s three day challenge day 3

Fab last day of zee challenge. I’m kind of glad it’s not too soul searching.

It is the end of a very rewarding day and the challenge fits right in with what I am aiming for. So this is Jodies challenge

Day 3

So we know who you are and your dreams for the future, today I would like you to list 5 things. Five small actions you can do daily or weekly to bring you from the person you are today to the person you hope to be in the future.


  1. Do my Co- facilitating training with Healthy minds

  2. carry on going to regular support meetings to get a feel for how service user led groups are run and how different facilitators ‘guide’ the group if need be

  3. Get ready to engage with the NHS and find out at what point they see us helping people in recovery with an eating disorder and the criteria that the group needs to meet.

  4. be patient and go with the flow. 

  5. Take time out if need be. I am not a machine

So I am ready to go through the process of getting this group up and running for Spring. It can’t be done in a day but it is in progress and that is a lot better than where I was yesterday.  Never thought I would ever be doing this and I am blessed and honoured. 

So just got to keep doing what I am doing and being me.

Thanks for the challenge Jodie -Check her out HERE – have a brilliant 2016 and I am sure we shall be connecting in the blogging world at some point. 

That’s it I’m done for tonight. 


Perceptions of addictions and dependency

What image comes to mind when you think of an addict?


Did anyone picture an addict as someone like this

Some people think it is all right for a talented person to have an addiction..

Did you picture this?  

What do you think when you see these images?

Are these potential kind of addicts  more acceptable than other addictions?  Why?

What about these images. Did anyone picture this?

Do you think the religious fanatic has no addiction?  Could he/she feel ostracised and alone in a country that she/he was born in,  but  her skin colour happens to be similar to a bomb suicide terrorists. How does that person deal with being made an outcast because they share the same race/ colour as a ‘typical’ fanatical terrorist?

Did you see the child with special needs as an addict/dependant  on  medication as not being his fault. That the medication helps him to suffer less? The person with special needs- who’s mental health will never improve. Regardless of what medication he is dependant  and becomes tolerant to. He/she  uses up  a lot of the public national health funds ,to continue to live a life, with no hope of getting better mentally.


I’ve seen lots of couples  smiling and laughing, having a laugh and having a few social drinks. Is this more  acceptable? Do they look in control? Maybe they met over the internet and decided they needed a drink to calm their nerves? Change the wiring in their brain to feel able to communicate.

What about the baby born addicted? True, it is not his fault but what do you see when you think of an addict?

No, he/she never asked too be born.  That baby does have a mother and just because that mother is addicted to a substance; that  does not mean that that child is loved any less as opposed to the mother who stops smoking and does everything by the ‘perfect mother pregnancy ‘book   What if that mother does the ‘Down syndrome test’ and is confronted with  a positive?

What if she decides to terminate that life because she believes that a child deserves to be mentally well to succeed in life?  Could that be the one thing that tips her over into  poor mental health? She may go to her doctor to prescribe  her sleeping pills to cope.

Why are some addictions seen to be better or acceptable to society than others?

Some are legal?

Some are not their fault?

Some don’t commit crime?

Some are not morally right, others are?

The real issue is that addiction has many faces and all addictions affect mental health.

What do you think mental health is?

mental healthLine breaks: men¦tal health

Definition of mental health in English:



A person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being:all this pressure seems to be affecting his mental health[AS MODIFIER]: mental health issues

We all have a brain. We all have mental health. Mental health is on a continuum scale. There is no person who sits in the middle of  the continuum scale of mental health forever. People are constantly sliding  along it from good to bad mental health. Some people have more extreme mental health issues and  then sometimes those same  people have good  or at the very least better mental health.

If you lost your house how do you think you mental health would be affected?

If you got married how does this affect your mental health?

You get a promotion at work? where on the scale of mental health do you see yourself?

A person close to you dies? your son, your dad, perhaps? Where do you see yourself on the mental health continuum scale?

You can’t have children ?

You are bullied?

You win a beauty contest?

Not everyone has the same access to healthy coping mechanisms that another person may have. So, if you agree with that statement.  Then you can reason: how one person deals with a situation or experience, another person will experience it in a different way -a lot of that depends on what tools they have to cope.

Addicts who use drugs may be deemed as the worst of addictions/dependency because it is illegal and immoral –  they might steal for their habit or use sex and money transaction  as their currency

These are symptoms of a mental health disease.

What about the sex addict who has multiple affairs?

The shopping addict who gets into loads of debt?  Is he/she contributing to a healthy society?

The Facebook addict whose life revolves around showing the world how amazing their life is?  Who become obsessed and measure his worth on profile likes or statuses.

It is easy to assume and make judgements.  The point is addiction comes in many forms and all of them are related to mental health issues.

No one can possibly know what experience in life will push them down the scale of poor mental health, or how far down that scale they will go.

It is our duty as a society to come together and find answers. How much has judging  and assumptions helped  to make society a better place? It is not some one else’s problem. If you have an opinion on it. Then you have a duty to comment or brainstorm on  ways a society can come together, and deal with poor mental health positively.  Don’t judge or discriminate  by only one image to go by. We are complex human beings and we deal with situations in a unique and complex way. There are many layers to a person and their reality.

The American Academy of Pain Medicine, American Pain Society, and American Society of Addiction Medicine, recognizes these definitions below as the current accepted definitions.


I. Addiction:
Addiction is a primary, chronic, neurobiologic disease, with genetic, psychosocial, and environmental factors influencing its development and manifestations. It is characterized by behaviors that include one or more of the following: impaired control over drug use, compulsive use, continued use despite harm, and craving.


II. Physical Dependence:
Physical dependence is a state of adaptation that is manifested by a drug class specific withdrawal syndrome that can be produced by abrupt cessation, rapid dose reduction, decreasing blood level of the drug, and/or administration of an antagonist.


III. Tolerance:
Tolerance is a state of adaptation in which exposure to a drug induces changes that result in a diminution of one or more of the drug’s effects over time.


Addiction is uncontrollable compulsive behavior caused by alterations of parts of the brain from repeated exposure to high euphoric response