“Who says nothing is impossible? I’ve been doing nothing for years.” -UNKNOWN
Ha! I love this quote. I very rarely let myself truly chill out and veg. This weekend was the first weekend and time in over a year that I have given my mind and body a true chance to chill and enjoy being in the moment.
Why do we think that what we do is– nothing? not enough?
I look back over the years and, at this moment in time, no, I don’t have a 9-5 job.
However, I have been working harder than I would, ( I am talking about me here), say if I had been working in a 9-5 job.
I’ve only just realised how important it is to take some time away from my work and what I do.
I love being active and in the last couple weeks-everything, I love to do stopped being fun any more.
I was even getting stressed out about some of the things I do to wind down, an example is Blogging. It was having the opposite effect. I was getting way too grumpy.
I even thought of taking a break from it.
I have just realised that all I needed was a couple of days to
not get too worried about being up to date with my posts
not work out to my most difficult dance work out session
not only seeming to eat bloody fruit until the wedding.
not having to be the most awesome .. insert title here……
not worry an have that inner belief that I can give my all in whatever I have going on next week.
It’s Sunday and I woke up at 10. It does help to have a Bella Bee free night.
I didn’t wake up at 5 am to start blogging and reading blogs. I know I can do that later on today and this week and next week and the week after that.
Here is the philosophical bit.
I don’t know if it is age but my mental state is finally starting to shift.
I have my goals but I have finally started to stop trying to prove to people that they have to like me or what I do or say or write.
I care about a lot of people and support many people here and in my “real life” but I now know I don’t need their approval.
Not all people will get me or you.
Don’t take it to heart.
Usually, if someone seems to ignore you, is hostile, is not consistent with how they treat you. If you are always left feeling drained or uncomfortable and generally bummed out around certain people.
99% of the time, it is not something you need to figure out.
It is usually all about what that person has going on in their head.
People who judge and are critical to others, try and target the people who are themselves and who are 100% genuine and happy with what they are doing and where they are going. Haters try to make you question if you are good enough with what you do or have. They never give you anything but a serious doubt in your abilities.
Usually, whatever seems like a reflection on you and who you are and how you are – isn’t.
I know I am the only person who knows myself better than anyone. If I trust my gut instincts, I know how to reign myself in, reflect on my own judgements and check out what is going on with me.
Not everyone is comfortable with the fact I don’t hide certain ‘”skeletons” of my life in an overflowing wardrobe, that I supposedly should be ashamed to share.
My thinking is – I share them because I fucking got over them.
If you don’t like that I am not all caught up in an eternal self- mind fuckery, that is your problem, not mine.
I and you. We all have a life to live.
There is a great life out there to see and experience. We need to take time to chill and do our own thing. Even if it seems like we are doing nothing. We are usually doing a lot.
I am convinced that all the things I have lined up for this next week -will be tackled with 100% passion and commitment.
I’m feeling fresh, energised (amazing what a few haribos can do)
That’s it from me.
*Life is busy again -I choose to post this 10 days before I am “supposed” to because I think our MENTAL HEALTH needs care and attention every single day*
Inspired by taking a head ache tablet and the film ‘the Matrix’
It’s a bit abstract and simple at the same time.
Using the matrix as a metaphor to raise MENTAL HEALTH awareness and reduce stigma
What if I asked you This?
What pill will you choose?
Remain ignorant about mental health issues ,or acknowledge and seek to educate yourself?
If you believe you have a brain and a body -then it makes sense that you have Mental health and Physical health. Both exist. Both can fluctuate along a spectrum of Good- Bad.
Yes. I am aware that the picture shows only one tablet. Think of this one tablet as how the status quo deal with Mental health -good and bad.
I’m not saying there hasn’t been progress. There has. We have a long way to go still.
Society wants to understand IT and at the same time ignore that IT exsists.
We can’t have both.
In my opinion,
to think you can live with both:
understanding and ignorance is INSANITY.
This is what keeps us from understanding and evolving into the mental well being matrix system. 😉
‘ the body cannot live without the mind’ –
Morpheus from ‘the matrix’
Here is a link to world mental health U.K. website –
it has articles, blog stories and loads of information on MENTAL WELLBEING -good and bad.
I live in West Yorkshire, U.K.
support links for people in my community here
I have done the 5 day co facilliator W.RA.P. and I’ve done the 12 week program.
I’ve been involved with many of these services or know people who have in some different capacities and reasons.
I BELIEVE ENGAGING AND REACHING OUT WORKS.
I FIND WRAP HAS HELPED ME.
Invest time in learning about the Wellness Recovery Action Program 5 core values.
What is your understanding of these values? Click on each underlined link to read another person’s definition of WRAPS core values
SELF ADVOCACY – (it took me a long time to understand this)
SHORT INTRODUCTION TO WRAP
My premature message for #WORLDMENTALHEALTHDAY 10TH OCTOBER 2017
I just wanna do my thing.
I don’t wanna hurt nobody or anybody with the way I decide to go.
I’m all heart – Sensitive a subject of the dark arts but in truth, I can’t really stop the blood flow;
coursing through my veins. I don’t need blood clots to interfere with my emotions.
I like to feel.
From time to time, circle crops set up home on my turf – I’d like to say it is an alien probing and feign ignorance, I can’t deny the familiar weight of sentimentality surgery.
Unforgettably invasive- it is real.
Paranoid thoughts – tension is all I have set on my watch dial. I know I have not been Santa’s best girl every time.
Honestly, I do enough good to save me from paying for another crime.
Honest intentions. Soul soft and pure. Warped sense of humor.
Bold, moody, loving ,trusting, overly sensitive cysts congregate into lumps, deciding on the logistics and geometrics, of developing a cost effective tumor.
Screams above – Take me – unleash me from the scourge of hell that I find my feet clad in cast iron.
No one else can cut the chain. Raggle out that last breath.
Breathe life into a place for the ones who seek redemption in their conceptualized Zion.
Fighting spirit. Fighting a war. A battle within – Gore – more gore .
Is this really all she has to show for herself and sell on the haggle market shop floor?
Life takes us down alleys where the shit tide threatens to pass the neckline.
Think quick, Grasshopper – put that cap on backward and move into a new gear. Time to engage and decline or re-define.
Shattered thoughts. Media social networks taunt. Pull the plug. I’m done with the fictitious lives.
Comparisons in a house of distorted mirrors. Insecurity breeds, incubate in these surroundings – glass shatters – contaminating other entities- is how it thrives.
about not the friends who are not .
Worry about the ones who are in ‘yours truly’ life and are what you would call ‘your lot’.
Happiness is not a concept. Dolce and Gabbana shoes heighten the germicidal sensation of Dopamine overload syndrome- early onset.
The human touch, the words we use. More lasting splendor than debiting additional digits from your visa card, in an attempt, to feel less deprived. Wage a bet.
Birthdays are for celebrating – don’t ignore the day you not only gasped but grasped your first true breath.
It takes skill to meander through the valleys, hills, low-lying turnstiles, the rabbit holes of seemingly eternal strife.
You have passed by many costly troll bridges – and managed to get away with what is most sacred – your life.
Another day has passed – look at what you have done not what you have lost.
Focus on your strengths, not your adversaries – no need to subject yourself to more savage beatings at an unnecessary cost.
No motivation – it’s okay,we all have these moments thinking we have forever lost our precious marbles
Get back on the wheel and break dance – do a wheely – show off that you have emerged from the eye of the storm – scarred but intact .
Be pleasant,smile it’s okay you’ve got this .Thank the alert, coast guard marshalls.
Live. Eat. Pray.
whatever you do,
always have your say.
It is actually the
Ridiculous ahem.. handwriting tag.
Don’t know whether to be offended or…..
What are you trying to say , Armani Imani ? 😀
I totally accept all things silly and not so SERIOUS- in my life. Laughter is for free.
I’m having my fill to go.
This is what happened. I get nominated by Imani @twentyonegramblog.
5 things you should know about Imani
She may be the poshest bin lady I have ever met! 😉
She sends me songs of her singing and makes me feel like gravity has nothing on me.
She is an actual human blogger. I have contact with.
She is beautiful and she
hardlydoesnt knows it.
Her heart could be bottled up with the label ‘generous and loving’
She has attitude, personality, brains, wit, a normal life, a beautiful family.
We are blogger bestie soul mates.
2. Write your blog url
3. Write: The quick brown fox jumped over the lazy dog
4. What are you writing with?
5. Draw your favorite emoticon
6. Write a silly message
7. Write who you want to tag…..HERE IT IS
cakeordeathsite What would you choose? – Such a brilliant mind and when I want to explore someones mind – take it as a compliment. Have a feeling you don’t accept awards but whatever right??
LOTTIE @ run.rabbit.run.THE BLOG BEHIND MY CHILD ABUSE PTSD MEMOIR< WRITTEN BY A BRAVE SURVIVOR-to help other sexually, physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually & ritually abused survivors xx – Hard to read but does not mean this should not be read. Life is what it is. DON’T IGNORE DIFFICULT PROBLEMS IN OUR SOCIETY.
BROOKE @theutopiauniverse Hello, And welcome to my blog,my aim is to offer help,advice and teach ,great things into your life everyday ! email@example.com Another wonderful soul who I support fully and she does the same for me. Muchos love
SIMPLY MARQUESSA Life is just a story. And I’ve got a pen. Thank fuck you do. Drop it like it is hot, indeed!
Sweta Ojha A Personified Narrative : Defying Reality. Sketching Imageries. – Souls sometimes connect and in this case I am honoured xxx No hablo Espanol, Hablo con mi corazón ❤
EDDAZRelationships, Love, Lifestyle, Poetry When I think of E. I think of natures version of Ecstasy. That is how I feel when I read anything on her Blog.
LYNNE’S RECIPE TRAILS Delicious Foods and Tasty Indulgences I know Lynne is an award free Blog but this is a Tag so it kind of different. Lynne is my 7th star because sometimes content is not the only thing to connect Bloggers. Communication, ,support and friendship is a good enough reason to stay connected.
NO BODY HAS TO DO THIS -OBVIOUSLY.. Just needed to do something ridiculous .
HAVE AN EPIC SUNDAY
“I fuck up all the time. I also make sure I get my shit together and fight for what I want and who I want in my life. I can’t fight for the ones who give up on me but I can only wish them the very best “
Apologies for not reading as many Blogs as usual. I have read as many as my mind can take in. It’s been pretty rough for me lately.
All very “woe is me” and it has got boring!
but it is a new -ish day!
I needed too get something optimistic out into the Blogo sphere
My tuition loan for my MA in Creative writing has come through- waiting on one more loan to come through.
I don’t take no for an answer!
Then 2 years from now I will do a mini PHD top up and go and rule my world!
Oh and in other great News,
I’ve been officially approved on the WRAP training facilitator course in September. If you don’t know about it yet. You will do. I will merge my own personal WRAP PLAN and journey with my new role of holding the space for others to have courage and believe in themselves and feel safe to go on their own journey .
I’m not a teacher, merely a person who has a chance to offer support.
Volunteering with charities in Mental Health is the best thing I started doing with my life.
They know I have been ill , may even get ill again. The point is, if I don’t put myself out there I will not have a chance to seize any opportunities.
Volunteering gives me drive, Keeps me focused, empowers me to do my best in life and if I manage to help a few people out on the way then what more can I ask for?
Oh and here is how I was able to get on this course. Scroll down to check out my PLEA to get on this training.
Just hit scroll if you don’t want to hear me go on for oh 5 minutes on my video cam… 😀
This is my career. I take it seriously.
If you want to listen to me waffle about how I felt about WRAP way back in December 2015 – feel free. 5 minutes of me talking!
Oh the excitement! 😉
Oh and if you don’t want to know about WRAP.
Ha ha! I’m not.
My WRAP page needs updating but if you want to know what Daisy get’s like when she is passionate and determined CLICK HERE.
Never thought that me filming myself nearly a year ago would lead me to this.
I, Daisy Willows,agree to abide by the WRAP ethics and values.
*PLEASE ANSWER THESE FOUR QUESTIONS TO CONFIRM YOUR PLACE ON THE TRAINING*
ABOUT MY WRAP EXPERIENCES AND HOW I USE WRAP IN MY LIFE
When I was given the opportunity to be a part of WRAP, I didn’t know how much it was going to impact on my life and the lives of others.
I was and am by nature sceptical. I have relied on medication and psychotherapy and in patient treatment as a way of managing my mental health for most of my life.
WRAP was a three-month period where I began to realise that I could have more of a say in how I want to be treated and how I could cope differently.
I learnt so much. I now have so many different ways of coping and I find that when my mental health does dips, I do get back to being in a better mind state more quickly because of some of the techniques I have learned and adopted.
I believe WRAP is personal and unique to everyone who participates. I don’t think I took away the same thing as any one of my peers.
It was an opportunity to discover more about myself. How I can help myself.
I learned to work as a team. I felt safe and I didn’t feel judged.
3.MY REASONS FOR WANTING TO BECOME A WRAP FACILLATOR
WRAP has given me the confidence and skills to live a life I want to live. I want to be able to share that with others
I am able to take every aspect of what is covered in WRAP and either use it myself or pass on what I have learnt to others who may need advice.
I believe WRAP is the way forward with the CPA. I have given a plan over to my professionals who support me about my wants and what I don’t want to happen if I go into a crisis again.
I have alternative ways of coping with my wellness toolbox. I also have a post crisis plan to let people know when I am getting better and I can start taking more responsibility for what I can’t when I have been unwell.
WRAP is truly the best gift I ever received.
Is there anything bad to say about WRAP?
Well I suppose an open mind helps.
It requires commitment to wanting to improve my life and consistency.
4.WHAT I WISH TO DO WITH MY WRAP QUALIFICATION
Spread the word. Let people know there is another way to manage Life in many different ways. I want be a Wrapper. Use my qualification to just offer support. I am no teacher but I can give my time and my energy and my listening skills. I am enthusiastic and passionate about WRAP. I believe I will be a great asset to getting this programme and alternative way of living out into our community. I use WRAP every day, even when I am not even aware it.
We all have to start somewhere to get to somewhere else right?
A year of volunteering and training done so far and all of the effort has been 100% worth it.
So, today I am very proud to say I successfully helped to put together a Mental health awareness workshop and co -facilitate it.
I felt so at home. I felt the most comfortable I have ever been. I’ve helped out with a few workshops before but this was like my mini baby step to doing something I didn’t think I could do.
‘Be your greatest cheerleader – nobody else is likely too.’
Upon reflection I realised we still have a long way to go to reduce and breakdown Stigma against Mental health issues in our community and society.
I stick by my rule of always being authentic. I have nothing to hide. The more I shared, the more I felt I connected with other people.
People opened up and it was awesome to observe this.
We all have mental health and I discovered a lot of people have similar issues. We deal with them in different ways and some can have more extreme ways of coping than others or vice versa.
I’m on a roll here . ha ha
I know what you are thinking. Just let me have this moment? Please!
United, we can break down the stigma attached to mental health and address the issue properly.
We all have a mind and a body -so no one- unless a person defines themselves as an actual (not metaphorical) robot- is susceptible to having Positive mental health and Negative mental health over the course of a life time.
Why do we feel ashamed to be labelled? We quite happily wear labels like Prada , Gucci, Matalan , doctor , chef , cleaner, politician ?
I don’t have any shame in what I have done or what I have been through. I have so much respect for the people I meet here and in the real world.
I am truly on a mission.
Perfection is unattainable!
We need to leave that with the Romans.
Look to the future .
Even better pause and take time to enjoy the moment. Look around you and be happy with what you have.
Don’t read beauty magazines or buy into the celeb media market.
Pick up a book and expand your mind. Take pictures. Paint, draw, act. Get creative.
I have recently found out that a lot of people Photoshop ( I mean really Photoshop) their social media images.
No wonder I don’t recognise people when I am out and about in the big wide world.
I am kind of joking . 😀
I do day dream when I am out and about.
I always have a million things going on in my head.
Not everyone does this Photoshop thing but to know that people do, just made my jaw drop.
So I am going to stick with being real. It seems to be working.
I can smile at strangers in the street and they smile back.
We are all human.
We need food, exercise ,sleep, a toilet……. Can you see where I am going with this?
That’s it for now.
I did it.
We did it.
Totally motivated and ready to break down stigma.
My mantra is:
‘I am successful at whatever I do.’
no matter if that means getting out of bed or getting my degree.
Oh yeah baby – all I am asking for is a little bit of respect…. ( totally dancing on my own in my room – may just grab my hair brush )
TOTAL RESPECT to a very good mate of mine on Word Press for this award.
Who doesn’t know Paul ?
Talented, generous and a born fighter. I have a lot of time for this dude. Look at this face what is not to love?
Don’t let the title of his Blog put you off – this is not all about fitness but it will put you through your paces. Or should I say Paul will.
So a respect award is pretty fucking awesome right? I want to thank Michelle for nominating me for the one lovely award Blog. I recently just accepted this so I have decided I am going to give this award to some one else I think is awesome.
SIMPLY ETTA D. Your quotes have inspired me and helped push me to move forward.
Here she is : I forfeit my award from Michelle @ PSYCHEDELIC BAY -WHERE HOPE IS REAL – Small shout out to her partner in crime 😉 Cezanne.
Before I continue with accepting this really cool RESPECT award. I just want to let everyone who reads this that there is an epic party going on this weekend at Jaquies a cooking pot and twisted tails. place. If you don’t know her.
Where have you been?
Ha ha. She is another great inspiration and my Blog role model.
I also want to thank Linda G Hill. your Saturday soCS -stream of consciousness writing challenge. She always prompts me to get shit out of my head and onto the screen. You get me thinking out of my comfort zone which I love! ❤
Then there is the rest of you who I follow and who follow me. You make life that bit easier for me and I love all the different perspectives I read and the cool thoughts and ideas you have swirling round those brains of yours – The Word Press community are full of heart. We are empaths and should rule the world .
What are we going to do tonight ,WP posse ?
Okay so on with accepting my award from Paul.
THREE QUESTIONS TO ANSWER:
WHAT DOES RESPECT MEAN TO YOU ?
It means having faith and self love and self belief.
Respect is about using old school style manners – that will never go out of style for me
Respect is about boundaries and acknowledging others have boundaries and not to cross them and know when not too.
It means listening and it requires effort and commitment and compromise
WHO DO I RESPECT THE MOST?
I respect people who are honest with me. Who take me for who I am. I respect people who are true to themselves and are not afraid to stand alone when the shit hits the fan. I respect people who refuse to give up – the people who rise and fall and rise and fall and rise again. I have a lot of respect for my Mother and my Nan. Two ladies who fought to keep me alive. I would probably be dead today if it were not for their persistence that I could find a way to be happy in this world.
WHAT DO I RESPECT THE MOST ABOUT MYSELF?
Woah I guess…. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I don’t hide my issues. I fucking embrace them. I am not really great at giving up. I like myself . I have a lot of love to give to people. I don’t take bullshit but I can’t hold a grudge. I try but I can’t -especially if it is some one who I feel or once felt a connection with. I hate conflict.
ONLY THREE NOMINEES?
These are solely based on recent discussions I have had with these Bloggers.
BRENDA @CYBERNETIC BLONDE
SERENA @ SERENA JOY SINCLAIR Lifelong Learner
BROOKE @ theutopiauniverse
ALL THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE MENTIONED ME IN THEIR BLOGS THIS PAST WEEK. I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FIND YOU ALL ON WORD PRESS YET BUT I WILL……..
T @ MY LITTLE BIT OF SERENITY HAPPY 6TH ANNIVERSARY TO YOU AND PRESH
QUEEN BEE @ I SING THE BODY ELECTRIC
What must I do with the tug that pulls at my rubber heart like a current working against the frequency waves of my mind?
You’ve won a trip to wonderland!
Can I take my bed with me? I’m finding it hard to stand.
Look at your dress! You are going to make a beautiful bride.
Everyone you love is coming.
Heart and mind can’t you connect and just be normal and run with this ride?
There must be something I can do to make me tick-tock without the need to be wound up every hour.
You have been Given 50 grand to buy whatever catches that mag pie eye of yours!
Can I take my bed with me ? I find it easier to shop if I am in a position where I am flat and can lie.
Look at the state of your current wardrobe. You have the chance to come home with bags of vintage finds!
Everyone will want to mimic your own inimitable fashion style.
Heart and Mind cant you connect and just be normal and and fall within the right lines?
How am I going to get out of this mind- full, conundrum soup when I’ m not even given the correct utensils?
Look you have the key to happiness, it is my gift to you .All you have to do is unlock it!
Can I take my bed with me so I can laugh at your attempts to tell me what I crave is within me? Let me have a snack and scoff for a bit.
Look within you. All you desire is hidden in that quagmire.
Every one who loves you wants you to break free from this Sisyphus like dream state .
Heart and Mind I need too show you how to connect again. I want to feel what my life reflects -allow me one last attempt to become everyone’s favourite sunbeam, mate .
I need one last line ,
to make this life mine.
I’m sick of living in a sand bed ,low tide -in a place where chances of survival is hidden in an oasis-mirage like den .
Monday has automatically become awesome when the word creativity is put before or after the M -word.
I’m really excited to go down to my local radio station- PHOENIX RADIO and learn a bit about recording pieces of audio. I touched on this in one of my modules at college – I had to write, produce and cast a radio play. I did an adaptation of one of the scenes from the movie ‘Natural Born Killers’.
The most fun I had was putting the SFX – sound effects in.
I also got to act in another colleagues radio play. It is a place I felt quite comfortable acting.
CREATIVE MINDS – a charity I’ve yet to do anything with yet will be hosting this workshop. It will also give volunteers like myself the opportunity to get to know more about the CREATIVE MINDS PROJECT.
I know that I thrive in creative environments so I have been looking forward to today.
I have a couple of ideas I want to thrash out and hopefully by the end of today I will have something as opposed to nothing.
Yeah, it can be scary getting yourself out there and of course I want to be a credit to whatever I get involved in.
So to all of you who are trying new things today. Be it a
new driving route
new holiday destination
The list is endless.
It’s okay to feel nervous and scared. I may not come across as a nervous and scared person but I too am just a human being, I feel the nerves too. I have my own way of dealing with nerves.
I’m going to learn or expand on my learning, give my time and possibly talk about future plans.
I’m trying not to expect too much. I think that is the key..
Being scared and anxious is normal. Meeting or working with new people can be daunting. It’s not a bad feeling to have.
In my experience when I have these feelings, especially when I am doing something different,I see these feelings as a positive . It reminds me that I care about what I am going to do and it tells me I am passionate about whatever it is I am going to do.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be successful and to want to have the ability to learn new skills and be credited for them.
All these skills and things we do make a great base for what we set up for ourselves in the future. We may not know what is going to happen in the future.
That is cool too.
What is important is that you never stop developing your skills and you never stop working on yourself.
You never know what it may lead to and who it might help.
Sometimes just your presence can be seen as support for whatever it is you sign up for or do.
Give yourself credit for the space you rightfully take up in your world.
A lot of the times what you do has a huge impact on helping others who are doing something new too.
The best way I can explain this is
I’m going to this workshop today. I may or may not think I will be useless. I don’t know much about this project.
How long it has been running.
If it is a new idea or project that someone has put together to see if something creative and productive can come out of it.
Using myself as an example.
If I don’t put myself out there and engage I may never know what could happen.
I may be the only person who turns up.
I’m NOT saying this is the case in this situation but I want you to see how important you and your presence is in the world you live in.
Don’t be afraid of creativity.
There is no way you can get creativity wrong. What is creative to one person may not be to another.
That is the beauty of it.
Have an epic day.
Try be creative in whatever you do. I am going to have a bath after gym. I may sing in the bath.
I’m being creative.
It’s that simple
Seize the day and be counted!
SO MUCH RESPECT FOR THIS LADY! . DARINA i 6 or known as manyofus on word press, lives with an illness called dissociative identity disorder. Even more respect for her because she digs rap and hip hop.
hihi everybudy it me darina and i am six i maked this video and i introduced myself and i want share it to you all here it is i hope you all like it❤ darina i six