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HAPPINESS TIP:Like sand through the hourglass…..

SECRET TO HAPPINESS TRADITION: Accept and celebrate the impermanence of LIFE

DATE: Any time


Before I carry on writing when I came up with this title I couldn’t help but remember the famous and cheesy American Soap opera and that man’s voice completing the ‘………. and so are the days of the our lives.’ All non-Americans CAN WATCH IT HERE.  The thing is that quote is blindingly accurate.

I think I might of mentioned this in a previous post on this page, but westerners (that’s us) tend to have this idea that we are ‘the centre of the universe’. We live in a non spiritual and materialistic society where success and praise is about the individual. We are so preoccupied with our our own sense of blazing importance. 

Many people move to cities that is where the money is  and forget that their is a navy coloured sky  above t so vast above us, which puts into perspective what a smidgen we truly are in this imperishable  universe.

Tibetan monks have a rather splendid way of creatively interpreting  this in escapable fact,by making intricate and rather vivid and stunning mandalas with grains of sand.

They pour sand out of metal funnels and skilfully make complex patterns  and spectacular  symbolic forms of  animals, spirits, demons

These mandalas take days to make but when they are complete, the Tibetans, scoop up half of this fantastical creation made of sand and put it in an urn. Half of the sand is shared with the audience, to circulate and disperse its healing among the people. The rest of the sand is then poured into a river or some  body of water.

Bizarrely, celebrating our mortality and perish-ability,  can be peculiarly  soothing.

How can we manifest this in our own lives?  If you have ever watched ‘Mary Poppins’ why not draw chalk pictures on a path then stay and watch it deteriorate or be washed away by the rain or swept away with the wind.  There is a  part in the movie where they bring the chalk pictures to life by jumping into the pictures singing ‘supercalifragilisticexpialidocious’ and create this fantastical life around them.


The children are so sad when it start to rain and they have to come out from the pictures created and watch that creation of life be washed away by the rain. Remember how as children we used to lie on our backs and make symbols out of clouds?  Do that. Watch how the clouds change from a face to a duck!

Make a sandcastle if you are lucky enough to live near the ocean. This celebration is about permitting yourself to admit and accept the fact that nothing lasts- relish  the peace and unity that comes with it.





Secret to happiness:  Not sitting with your thoughts and bottling things up but get talking with people on your wave-length

Tradition: Stammtitisch

Date: any time

Celebrated : Germany

You are super excited about finding out you are pregnant, or you have just had a baby. Maybe you love collecting old album record covers , you play dungeon and dragons. When you start telling your friends or family about what interests you -a film of glaze veils over the eyes, if you could peer into their ear, you would see the wax build up in epic proportions the minute you start talking about your interests.

A Stammtisch (German for “regulars’ table”, [ˈʃtamtɪʃ]) is an informal group meeting held on a regular basis, and also the usually large, often round table around which the group meets. A Stammtisch is not a structured meeting, but rather a friendly get-together

It’s not that your friends and family don’t love you any less but the ‘rat race’ that is life can leave a person feeling too drained to listen to your interest with their full attention . They may even think you are a bit weird. Well, who needs them. You need to speak with kindred souls. In Germany there are regular groups set up for strangers with a common interest to meet up and Gespräch -( ‘talk’ in German). 

In Germany friends, colleagues and strangers meet up to  to have a bit of a natter/chat, laugh and to jolt new connections;  and to get new and original perspectives.

People regularly meet up wherever and when ever, in places and get to discuss all nature of topics and know that other people will reciprocate. Think  of any topic that comes to mind and there will more than likely be a group for it. These strangers never stay strange for long.

The secret to some kind of happiness is, it so enlightening to share our experiences and desires and interests and connect with others. It is good to bond with others. We do this a lot in the blogging world which is awesome; but sometimes we need to get out into the real world ( yes, we do). Why don’t you ring up a few friends ask them to ring up a few of their friends, find a spot to meet and the conversation will be thriving by the time the first drink is finished.

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