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Follow Great Footsteps Perspective

“You always have an option to opt between,
‘You will always remember’ and ‘You will never forget’.”

“I feel though they both mean the same, second one is more strong.” Prakesh –


Its PH The daily reads and writes 

for joining in

#FollowGreatFootsteps     with me 🙂


This is as philosophical as I  can get  at 8 a.m. in the morning,on a Saturday.

I have to say I agree with Prakesh on this one.


Even though both are technically the same in meaning.

In my experience, remembering or trying to re call facts can be way too  energy and time consuming.

Thoughts get scrambled.

Other thoughts jump in and hook up  with the others and the memory becomes more of a sketch of what happened.  The trying to remember is more subject to manipulation.

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To  me, to ‘never forget ‘is so much more potent – because this is when an experience happens,where all the data and thoughts at the moment it happens is crystallised for all eternity.

It gets filed under ‘memories not to be fucked with’. 

 Other thoughts can’t get in that drawer .

It is bolted.

More often the key get’s misplaced. It gets put in the fruit bowl or in that favourite pair of jeans pocket- -never the same place.


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 Even if my thoughts  want to scramble the bolted  memories with a shot of what ever other thought. It’s not going to happen.

I can only liken this quote to :

I was once attacked at knife point with a friend. I remember bright lights, there was a group of people, a sensation of a tug on my jeans ,the sound of a blunt blade  cutting off my friends back pack.

Everything is hazy.

Details like what the people looked like – I couldn’t tell you.

Were they bigger than me?

 Possibly because other thoughts have dominated and questioned that night and diluted the memories.

One thing that other thoughts can’t scramble is my ‘memories not to be fucked with’.

 I can never forget the primitive fight and flee feel of fear.

It’s imprinted  on Me like some one took a boot to my head. These kind of memories leave deep scars. If I walk alone in a dark place at night on my own. This fear feeling will come up . It won’t let me forget.

I think the things  that are harder to forget are the things that arrest us – immobilize us. Stop us from moving.

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Details are changeable . I can read a book and suddenly have a new take on what the scene looked .

It is only when I am forced to stop,this is the time I am likely to form a memory that takes hold and cements.

Other memories like-

 clothes worn,

how many?

the date?

the name of the road.- don’t have the same “possession kudos” that a frozen memory does.

Thank you so much Prakesh!

A man with degrees up to his ears in the technology arena. He then   decides he needs to be dabble his hand in the arts sector and becomes a wizard with a flair for all things pertaining to the heart too.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.  Only joking. 🙂


I say he is a wizard because of quotes like these of his.

“My research work has not only motivated me to do technical stuff but also all other reads and writes. Blogging has opened a new life to me!”Prakash B. Hegade.

“There is also a small piece on Ageing. It is One of the topic that excites me. It is covered in introduction and four small episodes”Prakash B. Hegade.



“I mostly like to pen down poems. They can carry deep thoughts in few sentences and phrases. They are quick and also fun to read. If you ask me my favorite write, i would say this one – “Is this life all about –  A new old”. Prakash B. Hegade.



“You can also check the IBMCif challenges excite you. I am sure all the 10 tasks will engage you enough into writing. ” Prakash B. Hegade.

IBMC    challenges a plenty.

“I have a love story completed called “Today Calls Tomorrow.” You should read and let me know! Its a mini novel with 50 episodes and all available online. There is a free ebook version also available Here.” Prakash B. Hegade.





That’s me for the moment. I’m off the my mates baby shower this afternoon.  Catch up with you later.



Follow Great Footsteps Parenthood

“Well I’m thankful for the things I have,
And all the things I don’t.
And I’ve got dreams that will come true,
And I’ve got some that won’t.
Most the time I just walk the line- wherever it goes.
‘Cuz you can’t hang yourself if you ain’t got enough rope.”

-Christ Knight, “Enough Rope”

THANK YOU and a huge SHOUT OUT  TO   DaddyBlitz @The Daddy Blitz -Blogging about Family ,Religion and Politics  for these lyrics for #FollowGreatFootsteps. I found myself in stitches (not of the hanging rope/ medical kind) at the humour.

These lyrics give you a sense of what the mood is like on DaddyBlitz’s blog.

Want to know more about this Christian singer artist, Chris Knight ?  HERE YOU GO

Some valuable advice is  ‘ walk the line’. I had to look that up because I haven’t done a whole lot of ‘walking the line’ in my life.  😀

Walk the line

1. To maintain a fragile balance between one extreme and another. i.e.: good and evil, sanity and insanity, decency and decadence, etc.
2. To behave; to abide by the the law and/or to abide by moral standards; to walk a straight path of decency by following the rules; to “walk the straight and narrow.”

The latter definition is that applied in the song “Walk the Line” by Johnny Cash.

1. I walk the line between good and evil.

2. I used to be a drunken thug, but now I walk the line

I do love Johnny Cash. So thanks for the this new term. I do a lot of that these days.

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So what about DaddyBlitz ?

Last night I read his post and he  was writing about his life being married and having 5 sons varying from the age of 4-14 years old.

He has this way of writing that made me think

I could be a a mother again… It’s not that hard, surely …

Then I realised this is DaddyBlitz!

A man of God,

An epic and comic parent,

Works in the Attorney trade.

He writes and he blogs about  PARENTHOOD ,RELIGION  and POLITICS.  

He also Writes SHORT STORIES and POETRY  too!

He even has a GUEST BOOK on his blog. It’s such a lovely touch. People leaving their thoughts in comments about his blog – check it out.

Then, I realised that this man in my eyes must be some Demi — God. So, the planning to have another sibling for my daughter went back into it’s little cave again.




He reminds me of my G

No G is not in the attorney trade

Nor does he have a growing hockey team

But he does have the same spirit.

I read his post on Advice to new parents -Relax and I thought if this  is who springs to mind when I read this man’s Blog then I have nothing to fear when I get married -or maybe everything . Ha ha.

DaddyBlitz’s Blog  deals with heavy themes but not in the way I expected . There is a lightness, a spring in his style of writing and humour is never far away.

I love to laugh so I am sold –

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I follow this dudes blog.

I’ve ‘walked the line’ for a few years now and I never thought this would come out but I love the security I feel. I love the feeling of contentment I have in me and I love the direction my path is on.

I will always be a rebellious spirit is some form but I realise I can do this in way that doesn’t damage me and the ones around me. 

When I was in the thick of all the crap I went through a few years ago. I spent a lot of time with my legal team. They kept me going. 

The first solicitor I met was when I was when I woke up in a cell and didn’t know why. 

It was all around the issues with my daughter and that night.

I didn’t want an attorney because I didn’t know that the charges brought against me was assault. The police insisted I have some form of legal representation with me. 

I met S – the solicitor.

We went into a room to chat. I told him as much as I could remember. 

I didn’t know yet that all the tests had come back on the assault allegation. 

S started to tell me a story it went like this

“Did you know last week I went to   played in a baseball match in Manchester and it was a perfect day, the sun the was shining, I saw this ball coming for me and I whacked this ball so high – everyone scrambled for it. The thing is I don’t remember running each base.”

I was like.

okay…. the thought never occurred to me that baseball is an American sport and we were in the U.K. and I thought what a cool story – thanks for telling me.

He then came out with the words :

“Do you want to know why I can’t remember?

I obviously wanted to know and I nodded my head.

” Because it didn’t happen” 

I choked up.

Just because my loose cannon ball ex made the allegation I shook my child there was  no evidence and it didn’t happen. It was a lie.

Yeah, so thank you for this and for  engaging with my #FollowGreatFootsteps challenge I came up with.

Solid advice to live by .

I’m always looking for great quotes so if you have one that is unusual or unique -let me know in the comment sections. I will make sure I post your quote/ folk tale/proverb/ in #FollowGreatFootsteps category and I will send a a direct link to your page 🙂

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Follow Great Footsteps Life

“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

BIG  SHOUT OUT TO BRADLEY in L.A. for sharing this #FollowGreatFootsteps quote. It’s hard not to resent. I agree that it is a wasted energy and an exercise in futility.

In my opinion, the less resentments we hold the better we age and the healthier we remain.

When I think of Bradley’s Blog name– Insights From A Bipolar Bear .  I start hearing Baloo the bear  (from Disney’s ‘Jungle book’ ) singing

“Look for the bare necessities”


If you have never listened to this song as an adult. I suggest you do .  His philosophy  should be given a serious paws for thought ( couldn’t help myself.)

Do you think Baloo could sing this song if he he was still upset he got stung by a bee looking for honey?

Or if he fell asleep under a tree and that bloody bird shat on his head  AGAIN – like it was doing it on purpose?

I  think you get my meaning.

Bradley – has a wealth of information on living with Bipolar. He was diagnosed at the age of 14 years old with Depression and this went on to him being diagnosed with  Manic Depression (Bipolar)

He has every right to be resentful because of his experiences but Hallelujah he realises the waste   of harbouring this feeling.

Bradley is always on the look out for GUEST BLOGGERS -so if you have something to write about – get in touch and share your experiences

. It is Mental Health awareness month in the U.K.

So let’s get our voices heard.

Thank you so much for contributing to #FollowGreatFootsteps  

Peace . Namaste and all things zen and breezy.


I’m always looking for great quotes so if you have one that is unusual or unique -let me know in the comment sections. I will make sure I post your quote/ folk tale/proverb/ in #FollowGreatFootsteps category and I will send a a direct link to your page 🙂

*OPTIONAL* -add a short or long comment about why you love a particular quote a simple word or to on what it means to you.

Why do it?
Who doesn’t love a good quote?

Bringing inspiring quotes into our conscious minds gives us the chance to try and adopt that quality we love in an inspirational person





“Happiness can exist only in acceptance” George Orwell

Why this quote?

First of all if you haven’t read this dudes book  ‘1984’ . Get reading it. It is a dystopian novel and it packs a punch. This dude was so scarily right about what society could and has turned into

Secondly, the blogs I have got around to reading so far today, all have a common threaded theme  of acceptance weaved into the  content.


I have days when I am buzzing. I’m on an all self empowerment mission

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if you don’t like me then talk to the palm , see the worry on my deadpan face.

Not accepting what and who you are and look like is a one way trip to an asylum – I know  this.

Some days I accept I am a “normal” weight  and body shape now. I am not supposed to l have  the body and measurements of a 14-15 year old.


I know this but I have moments where I struggle to accept I have breasts, periods, thighs that touch, hip bones not jutting out.

I work out but I am not muscular -I try and see that this is healthy and is a  desirable  look  to achieve and aim for..



Sometimes it is hard to separate my old beliefs that healthy =  chubby or not slim or thin.

I wonder if I have made some God awful mistake taking up  exercise. I’ve bulked up and when I see a picture of myself, on a down day. I zone in my arms.

Why they so big? Where have my waif arms gone?

Not accepting yourself can drive you mad. I know this.

It drives old behaviours and thoughts.

There is me trying to fit in with the world and it ends up like this!


My biggest not so helpful behaviours are weighing myself obsessivly -so I may as well super glue the thing to my feet, I do it so much.

The worst mind fuckery is when I ask my partner to take pictures of me. It is hard to accept myself  and be happy in a body when the mind won’t allow it.

It rejects the body as a whole. It zones in on one particular aspect.


Big arms, no six pack, bloated tummy, cellulite.

So many thoughts scrabble  the mind

It must be the increase in medication

 I eat too much 

Why did I fool myself?

Why did I let myself be fooled that I am beautiful? 

The most insane thought…

Let me upload a bunch of pics of me  in my bikini,not in some exotic holiday place lazing by the pool ,sipping cocktails; but in my small bedroom, pale , no tan, trying to get in  as many angles as possible in so I can scrutinize my body.

Anorexia begs me


I won’t and I can’t….

So this is just a small insight into how even ONE day of not accepting yourself and others can turn your day from driving by in a vintage open top rolls Royce, past cotton fields, the air is a  sweet honey and the smell of fresh pine.

Not accepting yourself or  others can turn into a day of picking cotton, boiling and beating the starch out of the linen, the smell of sweet honey becomes a harbinger, it coats the scent of dead charred bodies- slaves.  Tries to mask it. You become the person who sees the carefree people drive by so cool and seemingly  no problems.

I want to be happy so I must strive to accept myself as much as possible. I cling on to the good days and try and remind myself of these days when  I feel like I am in a suit and not a real body.

in other news today… Money comes in and money goes out.

It’s bill paying day 🙂  Just go with this one, please.

That is fucking seriously depressing but it doesn’t depress me because I accept that in order to be comfortable and happy I have to pay for that privilege.

It sucks that  I have to pay for it but it DOES NOT  have an impact on my happiness. I know I am poor in money and rich in love – I accept thatjust a  thought. ….


Follow Great Footsteps Doors of Creativity

“The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow.” ― Shannon L. Alder


 Well, the obvious reason is my 4 day facilitating training came to an  end. What an accomplishment.

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There were ups and downs, moments I thought can I do this and then yesterday it all became clear.

Do I want to do this ?

Is this the best role for me to work within a the team at this particular organisation?

 I’ve done workshops with healthy minds and I love the idea of  and feeling  that we are on our feet brainstorming, doing activities to get us thinking about whatever topic the workshop is about.

 Healthy minds Support groups –  are  peer led support user led. They  base their  ethos on pretty much  all  of their work using a human centred approached ( a  term some old psychologist dude  called C. Rogers came up with)

So the focus is more on

  • empathy (letting people talk and listening)

  • being yourself

  •  respecting others.

I love this.

People are usually pretty fucking great at solving their own problems with a bit of support.   I personally don’t believe carrying and doing all the work (living ) for a person is necessarily  the best solution to a persons problems, in the long run.

Yeah, so I’m going to give myself a pat on the back.

It was a tough course.



I don’t get paid and I only just realised that yesterday. It doesn’t mean it is not rewarding in other ways.

I was so tired  by the time my pillow hit the bed, the thought of putting match sticks to prop open my eyelids to keep going crossed my mind.

It is like a full time job because I come home and there is more work to get done in my private life.

I am having a brilliant time.

I  do know one thing; from – the volunteering training and various courses I have been on with different organisations. Whatever  I want to do, needs to be creative.

Creativity inspires me and lights my passion.

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So I am on  the look out for projects that involve me  using  more  of my creativity.

I usually hate endings but I am okay about this ending because I know there is going to be a follow up and there is a what next plan.

 Generally, I think in life -we always  need a what next plan? 

 It is inspiring and motivating.

It encourages new beginnings and opportunities.


Want to  be a part #FollowGreatFootsteps?  You can do it! I will review your blog:) -check out the link above. It”s easy peasy.


We are half way through the week. I did something I didn’t think I could do. So time to move on to the next goal.

There is nothing wrong with spreading yourself as a volunteer/career. I feel I have  different qualities and skills to give and develop   to   different types of groups and charity organisations.

The key is – balance.



Tell me how you figure out that one please. 😀

Yeah so. I’ve learnt I am at my best when I am creative. I always doubted I was creative but by,

pushing myself and challenging myself and getting out there in the world has shown me I am what I always wanted to be.

I needed to convince myself and believe in myself.


 I also did   my BA degree based around acting and writing and thinking out of the box creative, so I need to use the skills I have.

I see so much light up ahead… what a difference three /four days makes eh?

If you can do one thing in life it is this ( be it one hour, or more often)