Category Archives: Write to create

Pets are for Life

When it comes to deciding to add to our family -most people want  a pet ( earthlings )with out baggage.

The websites I always see about adopting a pet look a bit depressing and not at all eye-catching.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where advertising extends to human and animals lives. The flashier the better.

It is said that we are so fickle but I can’t change this in one post.

I have found the most innovative website to adopt a pet – you have to check it out  THE SHELTER PET PROJECT  

“A person is the best thing to happen to a shelter pet. Be that person. Adopt.”

The site takes you through a funky modern and fun exploration on anything you need to know about PET ADOPTION- there is no hint of pity. These animals are celebrities, stars. 

You are the privileged one to have a dog or cat with the ‘X factor’come to live in your home. 

It is such an easy site to navigate around and it’s exciting. 

 There is also an Adoption story section with a twist

Check this out   




Charlie Schmidt


Spokane, Washington


Spokane County Regional Animal Protection Services


Bento is my best friend. We both have very similar personalities and he’s always motivating me to make art; I’m always drawing and taking pictures of him. He also happens to have incredible musical talent – you might know him as Keyboard Cat! #StartAStoryAdopt



My dad always says I motivate him artistically, but in reality, he is my motivation.



Here is one for our dog lover friends




Katie Sturino


New York, NY


Dog Habitat Rescue


Toast is a total diva – she always does whatever she wants, including sleeping – and snoring at inopportune times (like when I’m on a conference call!). But, she’s an epic snuggler, and so much more. Every day, she does a million little things that make me laugh, and I can’t imagine life without her. #StartAStoryAdopt



My Mom secretly loves napping (and snoring) as much as I do. Speaking of napping, Zzz….

If this doesn’t convince you that shelter pets have the X  factor check out this 30-second clip . To get it. You have to watch it 🙂  just saying

  Here are links to different websites that can help you with different information you may need when you adopt a new child into your family.

All celebrities deserve to be treated with the X FACTOR  star treatment 🙂






(FEATURED IMAGE PHOTO CREDIT Photo by James Evans/Illume Communications)

#FollowGreatFootsteps with dbsthoughtsblog

DBS GIRL  has  found an epic quote for the #FollowGreatFootsteps

Click on her name link in green to check out her chosen quote.

What can I say about this ladies blog. We are kindred spirits. I was first drawn to her blog when two months ago with this POST

She has a wicked sense of humour. She posted a pic of what she looks like and well….. you are just going to have to click on the post link above to find out why I connected with her.

She is also an inspiration to me. A person who has struggled and come through the other side -not pretending all is rosy.

She decided to challenge herself to do something different. Post a quote on #FollowGreatFootsteps –

All changes don’t have to be great big leaps.

I think the point behind the quote is if you don’t try new things you will never know what is waiting for you.

She is a great support to me and a great ally to have in the blogging world. She is a true giver xx

Need a bit of sunshine?

Totally feeling excited about 2016.  You know when you feel like jumping up and down and want to scream with joy. Butterflies flapping.

Today is a super short post..

Remember to always look for that silver lining no matter how bleak.

Challenge your thoughts about yourself and everyone else. Judge with a kind heart and you are half way to being even more awesome than you are.

So I love music and this is where I am at this beautiful, cold and dark morning in the U.K.

If you aren’t feeling the sunshine. Have a bit of mine. I have oodles 🙂  If Nina can sing it so can you and me -We all can

Be awesome

The text that came back to haunt me

What do you do when the past comes back to haunt you?

It’s the kind of haunting you tell to sit down.

It comes in the form of a young man, not even 19 years old. Hair blonde and curly -blue eyes and a face as bright as Apollo.

5 months of crazy sex. Talking and Listening to a mind so intriguing and brilliant that you never want him to shut up. We spoke with music – who could find the best song that summed up our feelings.

Yes, the arrogance is there all right Yet, he unfolds it with such charm you can’t help but see more good than bad in it. That smile disarms all previous arrogant displays.

Since seeing him again, I haven’t been able to get him out of mind. I’ve tried going to sleep early, taking my sleeping meds.  I can’t seem to not want to read his texts. His thoughts on how he really feels and felt about me.

My suspicious nature knows he is down and out. Not in a good place.  I think he quite possibly is using me as a diversion for the state of his life now. The one he wishes to re-build. The one I want him to rebuild.

I love hearing how much he actually liked me. The things he remembers. The things he wants to do to me/with me. Back then, I didn’t think he thought of me as anything than a fuck of mind and body. Apparently, he always wanted me one way or the other. He apologizes for having unresolved feelings for me.

He dominated me. I could not say no. I was drunk too. I didn’t want to say no I wanted to submit.  I loved fucking him on the kitchen counter. We couldn’t make time to reach it to the bedroom. It turned me on. It was wild, animistic, raw. Euphoric.  It was drunk sex.

Hundreds of texts have been going back and forth. I pushed him away all those years ago. I thought he was taking the piss. Using me. He did It didn’t end well. He was genuinely hurt. I felt bad but I was too stubborn to run after him and ask him what he felt..

At that time I don’t think I wanted to hear what he thought. If I knew it was going to be what he tells me today, life could have ended up very different for us.

Like attracts like. A lesson I seem to see over and over again. This has happened before with another one I let go of.

We are all so similar we three have the same traits. Impulsive, wild, hedonistic.

Craving for the good times to roll and roll and roll. One of us will make sure we always keep it rolling.

I want him. I do. I shake my head. Try and scream at him in my mind to go. He won’t go. 4/5 years later he is a man with scars. I too am a woman with many scars. I’ve come out on top. I have the perfect family. I’m getting married in 2016. We may not have a lot of money but we are a family- a happy one.

My partner is one of the good guys. He is loved by everyone. He is gentle and kind. He looks after my daughter better than I could. He tells me he loves me multiple times a day. He doesn’t really dominate. He treats the sexual part of our life and me with kid gloves. I know I should be an adult and sit down and tell him.

I don’t.

Instead, I find others like me. I don’t need to explain to them. They already know instinctively what they want and crave and they take and I take. My partner gives- and gives and gives. We go for months with no sex. I know he wants more but I don’t tell him I want more. Isn’t that messed up?

How can I ever tell him I have let him down once and considering a second time.

What is wrong with me?

My life is finally heading in the right direction -jobs and opportunities are opening that involve everything I want to be a part of. I want to work with people with addictions and mental health issues and homelessness. I feel I have a lot of skills to offer. I’m slowly doing the training to get my skills.

I’ve been headhunted for a potential job post that I couldn’t even dream up in my mind. It involves everything I want to do.

I sit here typing, smoking- I can’t see the words I have typed for all the smoke – creating a fog.  Anxious pulls on my E vape- more fog. I was so very wild then. I miss some of that part of me.

I can’t go backwards. Well, I can. That would be true madness. I could lose everything – my daughter my partner. Yet, the one that got away won’t leave my mind. I got to bed early and wake up pulling the pillow over my head.

Why now? Why not then?

Is it all mind games? My partner trusts me to go out with my past on new years eve. He never questions me. He trusts me as much as I trust him.

I wish I could reach out to him. Tell him what is going on in my head. Work through this muddle together. I find it easier to crawl back into my safe shell. The one that could potentially detonate like a  giant suicide snail terrorist bomber. I feel the slime of guilt weeping out of every orifice.

I can’t get back to sleep. I had to write. Writing is the only way I know to let out the shit flying around my mind.

For now I wait for a text from my past. One that allows me to bathe in my ego or I fight these thoughts, fight the past and leave it well alone.

I have responsibilities these days. I’m nearly 10 years older than my past haunting. I also have an ego that can’t help but be flattered. Maybe if my past and my present were on even ground then my choices would be easier.

Is text flirting cheating? I feel the guilt so it must be -yet I crave more and more… Forever an addict to the dizzy heights of euphoria.



EATING DISORDERS- recovery and support

UPDATE 2017:   I was led down the a rabbit hole.   Lack of communication, how to’s and (on reflection) there was pressure one to do all the ground work and I was left guessing. I did know that the person I was matched with to discuss putting the group together has had eating issues.  I can’t say if this person is an actual employee or or another volunteer  of the charity I mention in the post. I would be breaching data protection, my subscribers on here are not from the Calderdale Region and will not know who I am speaking of. The group didn’t happen despite my efforts to push for it, ask for help on how to fund it. I have been in many various eating disorder clinics for lengthy periods (in my life) I’ve come back into my community with no expert advice for people with eating disorders/comorbid disorders.  2018  is the year  I will be on the short list or a finalist for a project needed in my community. I know what it is like to live with an illness -relapse and be in the system. You can’t buy experience and research. Insight and passion is a lethal combination.   No one knows my mission value, my strategy, my values, my focus or anything other than my theme. Let the big charities attempt to copy my idea.  I have nothing to lose.  


I’m positively buzzing at the moment. Someone has  proposed a challenge  for me to do in  2016. The year has not even started.

 I’ve been giving the chance to front and co -produce a much needed ‘Eating disorder recovery and support’ group,  where I live.  I’m going to plant the seeds and watch it bloom. I’m going to be a part of the process from start to finish.

Oh yes! Challenge accepted.inspiring-quotes-for-best-of-inspiring-quotes-gallery-2015-52

Slightly over whelmed. . .heart palpitations that kind of thing.  


Yes, because I have committed myself to it. To see this through, right to the end. I don’t jump ship. If you ask any one who knows me as  the person I am today. I do challenges and I do them well.

Loving the internet at the moment. Lots of  kisses for it.

I’ve found an on-line course for FREE to do -which helps me understand Anorexia from a carers/ professional role.

I’m beyond excited! 

 Come the new year, I know that all this work is going to go somewhere…  it has too. I am using loads of  my time to make it happen. I can’t wait to hook up with my mentor at HEALTHY MINDS LINK and brainstorm. Two heads heads collide. I’m networking and gaining skills; I know this can and will be a potentially  powerful group. It is a necessity.

I know you may think I think I am in for an easy ride but I know there is muchos muchos hard  work to be done.

I’m always happiest working on something. When I was discussing  this over coffee, with the volunteer coordinator of ‘Healthy minds’, I felt pretty much out of my depths. I mean,I have an Eating disorder and it doesn’t go away. I manage it with various tools and skills I’ve learnt over the years. . I don’t have  any special  professional qualifications in Eating disorders.  These next few months I will be swotting  up.  The most amazing thing she said to me is: she can see me making a career out of my volunteering! She said that;

I have the passion, skills personality. oodles of experience (with mental health issues) , I listen!

CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT? I was like ‘Are you just paying me a bit of lip service here?’

Nope, she has me down for most projects/ fundraisers/ training   for 2016.  I can safely say I am not going anywhere but ‘healthy minds’ .

It will take months to get this group up and running.  The point is I am up, ready and I have started to jog that brain of mine. I do think that there should be strict criteria for being a part of (a closed) support group. This group will also be based on skills I have learnt with programs similar to the WRAP-Wellness Recovery Action Plan link.  program I did in 2015. 

Anorexia is complex. All eating disorders are. It is necessary,in my humble opinion, to gauge where potential group members are at in their recovery. I feel that a member of the group  needs to be at some stage of wanting recovery and support.

One of the ideas churning around my mind,is to make it compulsory to do a’ Body image pre- support recovery group-program’. The purpose is to  assess those members who can actively and be mostly positive in their recovery and  support. Positive  interaction with other members in the support group is crucial to making it work.

I know I sound like I am discriminating. I am not.

Eating disorders bring out highly competitive traits out of people. One person can bring the whole house deck of cards down in one breathe. For the purpose of the greater good- assessment is necessary. It sounds so clinical and in a way it is!

I know how hard it is to live with Anorexia and how hard it is to be happy and healthy and live with it.

It is tough.

Painful at times.

The mind games it plays.

Everything about it is sinister.  

I do feel at this moment in my life that I can’t facilitate the actual support group. That  must tell you something about  my insight into  the nature of eating disorders; or at the very least my own issues living  with an Eating disorder.

So, I will be needing awesome facilitators in the future months.

The role I seem to be adopting  is getting this project up and running. I can do the presentations/guest spots/ research / courses/lesson plans/activities. I am mindful that I need to put my own mental health first. I also think  think I would be  a good facilitator to run  ‘the body image’ program.

There is also the social element of trust of running a support group. Doing a body image pre program will help future  support group members bond. Strong bonds make a support group more likely to  work.

I’m very early into getting this group and program running but it will run. It may take until Spring 2016 but it will happen.

Where I live, there was no out- patient support. When I was released from various hospitals I relapsed many times. I do wonder if there was a support group near to where I live; would I would have embraced the idea of recovery and and accessed community support earlier.

I can’t have lived with Anorexia most of my life and fought it like I have.Then get the opportunity to work with someone on a new project relating directly to   eating disorders. I’m feel I am duty bound to help people who are suffering and need support. I have plenty tools and skills to offer. I am constantly learning too. I know I am ‘bigging’ myself up. I need to. I am a passionate woman. my heart is in the right place.

This project starts with me and an experienced person who runs groups at ‘Healthy minds. I have started the initial research and I have ideas. There is no stopping me now

It keeps me clean and serene and it keeps me off Facebook. Hasn’t it got so dull lately?

I am also collaborating with a creative writing specialist to create some kind of workshop/program or group,  with another charity called HOPE– check out the link. 

2016 is looking bright. Let the good times roll, right?