Pets & neglect

I thought today would be a good time to get a bit closer to home with the animals that we choose to adopt into our family.

Here is a word

NEGLECT

and another

ABUSE

What does this mean to you?

What does it bring to mind?

Something deliberate?

Sometimes  these words conjure up images and words of

  • Shooting

  • Stabbing

  • Setting an animal on fire

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A lot of animal neglect may not be deliberate.

It can be as something as simple as forgetting to put out fresh clean water for a pet or a farm animal.

There is a strong link between animal abuse and violence. My ex-partner was violent with his dog.

 

Is there a relationship between domestic abuse and animal abuse?

When I sought out my local woman centre about the violent relationship I was in. I had to do score test to find out which band or stage of severity my abuse I was in.

One of the questions was if my ex-partner ever hurt an animal. Animal abuse

This is one of the four predictors that may indicate that a partner will be violent to a child or a partner.

I remember a long time ago, I can’t remember where I was living but there was a man who was always abusing his dog. I don’t know what he did to it but the animal was clearly distressed. So much so I reported it.

So can animal abuse give some indication towards abuse to people?

Social workers /professionals are supposed to be trained to look at an animal’s living conditions in a household and gauge how they are treated to indicate if they’re some kind of clear break down in a family. There can be many reasons for this.

  • Poor mental health

  • Unable to have Empathy

  • Substance misuse

  • Animal hoarding

Animal neglect does give a better picture of any child /Domestic violent abuse that may occur in a household.

It seems like a no brainer and it is..

 

MEMORY ALERT

I remember when I was about 4/5 years old. I was playing with my ‘My little pony’ kingdom and the kitten we had at that time came to say hi. I don’t know what I was thinking but there was a ribbon on the floor- the memory is a bit blurred.

I tied the ribbon around my kitten’s neck and then tied it to the leg of the table my pony kingdom was on and I kept on tightening the ribbon until my kitten was hanging.

Something in my brain shattered. I realised if I didn’t do something my kitten would die because of me.  I scrambled to get my kitten free and I was in tears- horrified that I had nearly killed my kitten.

My kitten was fine by the way.

What if my mother hadn’t been a mad cat/animal lover like me?

What if she hadn’t taught me to love and respect animals?

Just a thought I guess….

She doesn’t know about this event.

 

So is animal abuse normal in children?

This can indicate that a child is a high-risk youth. Children from violent homes of abuse and neglect can act out abuse on animals.

I don’t know what this says about me.

Was I acting out on some unconscious level what was going on in my home at that point?

Possibly.

I think for me what is important is my instinct kicked in and I knew this was wrong and I never wanted or tried to hurt an animal again.

Some experts would agree that intervening early with a  child at risk of developing abusive traits can be more therapeutic in stopping the cycle of violence.

Why should I get involved in reporting animal abuse if it is not my business? How can I possibly be making any difference at all?

It is about looking at the bigger issues. If you report to the police/animal protection society of any abuse that you see, then this will be recorded on the crime database and it can lead to investigations and prosecuting dangerous criminals, keeping them away from society-ie in  prison.

 People who act out on crimes such  as

  • Damaging property

  • Violence against humans

  • Drug and Disorderly offences

can all be linked to animal abuse

WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP? I hear you ask

 

http://www.humanesociety.org/issues/abuse_neglect/tips/cruelty_action.html?credit=web_id83147831

Report all animal abuse. Animal abuse can indicate that there is something seriously wrong with an individual. It is not normal or acceptable.

 

The more we as a community alert police and the law to animal abuse, it becomes a clear message that this is an issue that needs to become more of a priority. It is a stand we take- that we will not accept to live in a  violent community. Law enforcers will need to become more serious about how they deal with this crime because we won’t ignore it anymore.

The result will be a safer community for our families.

 

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'Words are my everything' - JonWayne . Writer of poetry, stories, stage scripts, fiction, border line poetry & free style works, Music reviews, Guest Features/interview & shout outs. She is also passionate raising anti stigma & awareness for Mental Health. A trained co-facillitator in Wellness Recovery Action plan by Mary Ellen Copeland Natasha goes by many moniker names-Daisy Willows, bahtuhkid, GOAT2Bdazee. She has had a colourful life. Travelled. Natasha co-owns a second hand clothing & accessories business -La Bella Bijoux Lltd Natasha was born in South African & is a French national. She currently resides in the UK Natasha Bodley holds a postgraduate in the Humanities. A BA in Myth in the Greek and Roman worlds & Advanced creative writing. She also holds a Foundation degree in Acting performance. She is currently working on her first novel (semi autobiographical creative non fiction). She has published one short story on Amazon called 'Number one' Connect with Natasha Collaborate with Natasha & feel free to Communicate her too. Light , peace & Love!

35 thoughts on “Pets & neglect

    1. Hi Charlie, I know you mention palfitness/Paul McEvey. He had a lot of problems. His sister sent me an awful message which I didn’t approve until I found out he had taken his life. I was outraged. He spoke often with me in messages & had a few issues. I was outraged at what his so-called sister put.
      I wrote a post about it. And this is the post I did on Youtube https://youtu.be/GG857a4ffxk and I wrote a post to about his suicide. The link is here https://daisyinthewillows.wordpress.com/2019/03/22/wordpress-member-passed-away/.

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      1. I just seen your video and read the link to what you posted awhile back. I do remember now. I hope his sister is not using his ‘WordPress’ account and saying these awful mean things. If it is his sister…then that’s really messed up on her part.

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        1. I agree with you, Charlie. She used to send me awful posts about Paul. It’s sad and tragic. I’m not saying that Paul was perfect, by all means, I’m aware he had his issues. But that email/comment knocked me sideways. I couldn’t believe a person could be so hateful & venomous.

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  1. I’m sat here awaiting a call from the vets – my little dog is being spayed today – I cried when I dropped her off, she had to be dragged away from me, she doesn’t understand why I’ve left her there – I know she’ll be fine and when we pick her up she will have all the love and pampering in the world – she’s a lucky little dog – makes me so sad for other ill treated animals – I don’t understand that kind of cruelty xx

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    1. aaw Lisa- I know. I had my Tatiana spayed before she was three months old and it tore me apart – she was so tiny and mewing and I had all these thoughts running through my mind. Is she going to be cared for properly like I do. Let’s face it no one can care for our babies like we do ,right? I don’t get it either. I think that is why I react in the way that I do to it. I could have done this animal theme challenge very different. I like to know what I am dealing with and even if I am sobbing my heart out watching various documentaries on animal abuse in all its forms from the leather industry , to the meat eating industry -I force myself to watch the worst of it. I know so many people who refuse to watch it and I guess I have to respect that not all people need visual evidence. Imagination is enough. The word itself is enough. I decided to take a more -hate using this word -light hearted approach to raise awareness. I knew that if I started putting up those pics we know about and those video clips – most people would run in the other direction. So I challenged myself in this challenge. What a result! ha ha. I have some kind of understanding why people become violent and in a way society let’s a lot of would be criminals down. No -it does not excuse their actions but there needs to be some level of understanding on the part of the perpetrators in order for soemthing positive to be done. If that makes sense. I’m rubbish at math but if we just choose to ignore one part of the equation -refusing to understand it or tying to -the problem will never have a chance to be solved… Shit I better stop typing… A bit of a long one. Hope your baby will be okay – what’s her name? I hate those alien radar things they have to wear on their neck afterwards. I’m going to sound so cruel but to watch them try and navigate their way – one step forward -10 steps backwards is like some epic comedy dance. What I did with Tatiana is cut it down a bit so she could make her way around easier but not so much that she could goo for her stitches. I think Tatiana had dissolving ones. xxxx She will be home soon with you Lisa

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      1. Thank you xxx we’ve just brought her home, she’s called Peppa ❤ she’s shivering and d future dopey and wobbling on her little legs – Jeff’s dinner is postponed, everything is postponed till she’s a bit brighter xxx

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      2. Aaaw bless her. lots of love to Peppa from me and my fam 🙂 xx You have kind of robbed her of ever having a sex life but I am sure a bit of therapy time will help her get over it – ha ha -sorry I am terrible.. xx

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  2. Her bc came over about 7 weeks ago. They forced me to sign an illegal eviction or else they were calling cops on me. They wrongfully mentioned 5 keep positive posters and were nasty bastards. Idk how they can see a comment but someone’s URL from seeing it so I try not to go downstairs as if and remarks are made I’ll kick his ass. So, they’ll use my URL and then others and the number grows. It’s ok to be nasty and unfounded but I can’t say I’m upset without having to take down posts she dudnt like. It’s been sickening. My site has had several days where I got 3-600 posts, a day where I got 1000 and it’s easy bc normally I get half in the us and mainly half views as likes and suddenly I have 1 user, which had to be a WP user than I have say 200 views, 1 follower and 2 likes. Ten minutes and it attacks again even though they haven’t liked another post or had another device. A brain would be making a site. Then I’d have to make everyone go private. He can’t get into my computer via ip as I’m cloaking it.,
    Mind you he started the whike thing it was unfounded but me just talking to you will probably have you found out a lot. I love it when they click a post after I trash it and keep doing so as if bit will reappear. I think either I made abhor and he’s somehow monitoring the other site and going and changing it is a pain but mire because one follower keeps talking about it in both sites and would let stop. I believe because of her the over site was found. I have another ill use but I won’t tell anyone without allowing bl comments or if I don’t allow some., is there SOME clue that this site is related? I have only 40 hits and I’d say about I reblogged and told them. I’d say 15-20 others i never had.,and I have no profile on it. What do you see or is it just me saying I have site

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    1. I see your posts on WP and I have the choice to like it without going onto your blog -when I do click on to go to your blog to read your re blogs or other posts I get your website that comes up .

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      1. It has the gravatar profile bit that tells who you are on the left -it has your awards widgets and posts in date order from most recent. I don’t know what else to say. I would advise you to get away from all this negativity. It’s not doing you any good. I wish I coould be of more help 😦

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      2. Yes that’s what’s even more odd as he views them all. I can but the break line in like others do but I had people not view then if I posted often. He’s literally spying on me and trying to find out if I say anything about them, the kids, getting drunk (which I wrote some good posts about it that I put those go private as they were funny) he was trying to see I was a belligerent drunk and abusing her kids. Like how many ppl taking sleep meds and drinking makes it faster are up until 2-4 am and awake again at 8? He has had some posts he clearly sees are empty and keeps looking like many they’ll come back. I’d turn it into a war but followers might not like it and I should be deleting comments but being he has your URL he will find your site. I still don’t know how found my b site wo me telling them.

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      1. As far as I know just going private. The problem with that is having to invite your followers, which is going to take time and then hope WP was using their site, username or email address. I tried last week with 10, 5 switched and as I fixed one I lost on other and that happened 5xs. Not only are they inept and he pretends to be smarter than he is he actually said der der der I founda your (meaning me) der der der by using your name and town. >ME ok I am calling you out on your bulltshit and he could not find it that was but he has them probable all in his favorites. He is not giving you shit and my sister who was leaving now served me an eviction letter and I have a month and no way in hell to get what I need unless I gamble and do so well. But he actually followed either me reblogging my own site using a different ip or he watched every one and eventually found a match. Wow, he should have a plastic shield and a crash helmet.

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  3. Great post Daisy. I do not tolerate any form of abuse to animals. As far as I am concerned they are innocent beautiful creatures that do not have a voice. It is up to each one of us to love and protect them, just as we want to be loved and protected.
    I feel nothing to report abuse, and have done so. x

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  4. Hi I am in private more because this loser is now locked into both sites. In light of his high level of douchebaggery I would like to bomb his cell phone. I can’t do it as I am in the US but I do have several people that are not that he is viewing their sites. He monitors yours as he is such a slob I am ready to blast him but if I do I will get caught.My only way to pull it off is via direct email. If you are up to it email me at pm336sofast@aol.com

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      1. I will be specific because I thought you already know. My sister had been creeping on my blog for 11 months. Brings up down crap about you did not do this now, I answer it was a damn recipe and seriously mind your business.Over 2 months ago (her bf) called in child protective service and wove a lovely web or deceit saying the kids are gone now, he is an alcoholic and abusive. Mind you he and my sister fight often and he wants me gone,the 2 dogs, 1 they killed off from a combination of something he was fed and not taking him for a quick visits in early October. I kept mentioning to avoid commenting because a non WP user can easily get your url and then pick why they wish to follow. You and 5 others are being monitored and I said it to everyone to talk to me there. I reblogged my own post and I am unsure of why new ppl right before I made a second one liked me, it does not say anything like is you like this site try THIS ONE DOES IT? He viewed posts 1000 xs in a day and even opens I trashed many times. I mentioned for you to email as that is not compromised but if he hacks AOL he will be in jail. But now I saw yesterday on (b) site I got 21 views in a minute and now one like because that site is nice and all but I wanted to not be seen there. Does THIS SITE check out the other one? The fact that I respond to you and switch over to the other I switch ip addresses and I am guessing that 21 hits did not have have an account is him or similar. If you are an acct holder your WP address every time you visit someone’s site. So anonymous can for free.

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  5. That is an interesting tie-in between humans and animals. It definitely held true in our home. Most everyone in my family was decent to animals, except my Dad. Wouldn’t you know it, he was also the only one abusive to humans as well.

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  6. Informative post, Daisy! Tragically, there lurks deep down in most…nay, all…humans the potential for violence towards others. Seems most likely that in some the ‘control mechanism’ is faultier than in most others….
    There are some people who suggest that the basic instinct to violence resides in all creatures…. Sad!
    Lovely word ‘Villain’…. they come in all sorts of shapes, sizes and appearances….. Take Care! Hugs! ❤

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    1. Thank you as always for your feedback Babs. I do believe too that we all have this darkness -what I don’t know is how one steps over into the darkness for good. I have plenty ideas’ like child abuse backstory etc… 🙂

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  7. So true, Daisy. Animal abuse is a real indicator of problems with the individual responsible for the abuse. Even in cases where it isn’t, reporting the abuse at the very least will help the animal that’s suffering. I like that you point out the different forms of abuse too. I have a problem with a dog next door that barks incessantly … the problem isn’t actually the dog. The problem is the owners as they neglect it – it may be well fed and have fresh water, but it spends its days in the backyard – nobody plays with it or takes it for walks. The neglect manifests itself in nuisance barking. I wonder why some people get a pet if they aren’t going to love it and treat it right.

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    1. You have hit the nail on the head. There are huge responsibilities with taking care of all life be it human or animal lives and that means committing to understand their needs and to take the time to research and understand what they are taking on. This is why it is so important children from a young age are taught how to care for animals and why it is important. The story I mentioned about me nearly strangling my cat was me making sense of the life and abuse I was witnessing and experiencing at the time. My Mom has always had a affinity to animals and she taught me to love and respect animals. If she was a different person -maybe things would have worked out differently- just a thought x

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      1. Exactly right, Daisy. My Dad did a similar thing to a kitten when he was young & reacted with horror on realising what his actions were doing. He has since volunteered with animal advocacy groups. I think what you’ve said about teaching children from a young age is the key. xx

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